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Has this ever happened to you, a negative thought enters your mind? Have you ever said it even if you don’t mean it? I am sure most of us have at one point or another. Probably more often than we would ever want to admit. These thoughts are not only damaging to our self-esteem, they start a cycle of behaviors that tend to negatively impact the way we see various events in our lives.
An example: You find a project you know you can do with your eyes closed you put your all in to it, then when you’re finished you spot the smallest thing you missed in the beginning at that point you start to berate the way you did the whole thing. You ask for feedback, no one has even noticed this error only you have. At this point you start creating excuses for the error. Your personal negativity has made the whole project seem less important because of this.
Instead of taking feeling this way what are a few things you can do to avoid this pattern? Take a break from the project and work on something else then, look at it objectively. Notice that not only did you complete it in an efficient manner, you learned something from it. Focus on what you have accomplished and what you have achieved.
As spring begins approaching us. The thought of spring cleaning starts to enter your mind. Look around and figure out what needs to be done. Looking around you notice a whole lot of things to do. Take a deep breath and break up these tasks so they are smaller so you’re not as over whelmed. By breaking down the tasks it is easier to assign jobs to family members, and get help if the project is too big for you to take care of. Creating smaller jobs helps you feel more accomplished and feel better as you check each job off your list, only focus on the job at hand. Something that works for this is using index cards with the tasks instead of a list that way you only have to see what you’re working on now not what is left.
This time of year also brings in the desire to lose weight, so you started a diet. Then you’re on a date and see the dessert menu and the chocolate cheese cake jumps at you. In your head your first thought is well there goes this diet. Possibly thinking to yourself ‘I am fat, I can’t fix it so why try’
You are Wrong! Doing this is simply setting yourself up to fail, just by thinking negatively about the way you look does not solve the immediate problem. Instead, admit to cheating; promise you’ll try harder, and allow positive thoughts to guide you through it. Or think of it as a reward because you have been doing great. It is ok to cheat once in a while. Let’s face it; Desserts are good for us sometimes. Cutting out all of them can actually make you want to indulge in them more. So having one on occasion is not going to spoil your diet or make it so your efforts to this point were put to waste. Focus on the positive aspect of how far you have come. Not this moment in time.
Keep in mind that yes these thoughts will pop in our mind from time to time. It is what we do with them is what matters and shapes who we are. Letting them take over is going to ruin our whole day. When feeling this way start by saying yes I am feeling this way right now, however I will not let it change my good mood or pride for what I have been able to accomplish.
Thats really helped my day. I had a run in with my brother yesterday – it really does take a reminder of the fundimentals sometimes, its so easy to forget the lessons we have learned through life.
Enjoy the rest of your day – and thanks!
(ps – you should seriously think about publishing a book – your good!)